Even after two years, a DIDO relationship is love on steroids
Hi! I'm Sarah Long. I arrived in Australia from the UK in early 2010 and met my Mr Miner soon after. We're based in Sydney and he does drive-in, drive-out (or DIDO) to Orange in country NSW. I came out here as part of a six-month backpacking trip around the world, and never went home!
A colleague at work was recently bemoaning the fact that another of her 'couple friends' had split up. I asked if it had been a long-term relationship and she remarked that it had been nearly two years.
Well there you have it, the strike of the two-year itch!
Because she's been with her own husband since the age of 19, my colleague couldn't identify with this common relationship killer. As a serial monogamist, though, I find myself an accidental expert on the subject.
It wasn't long before it dawned on me: Mr Miner and I have been together for more than two years. Could it be that we've both finally beaten the infliction of the two-year itch? Or could it be that as a DIDO couple, we haven’t actually 'been together' for two years?
So, time for calculations. If you think about how much time we've actually spent together in the past two years, it could be argued that Mr Miner and I are nowhere near the two-year mark of a 'normal' relationship. For the first six months we saw one another only once every two weeks. Compare that to many other couples in the first throes of love - they pack in as much time together as possible! Then there's the three months I spent in outback NSW as part of my visa conditions - we spent only three weekends together in all that time. Not to mention all the time we've been apart since Mr Miner started DIDO…
My maths isn’t brilliant, but I reckon we've only really spent a year together in 'normal couple years'.
So does this mean the two-year itch is still lying in wait?
Or, to take a totally different tack, has our DIDO relationship actually speeded things up? Has DIDO pushed our relationship into fast-forward because we’ve been forced to make decisions, for practical reasons, that might otherwise have been delayed?
When I asked Mr Miner why we moved in together so quickly, for example, his immediate response was: "Well, we had to for your visa!" Romantic stuff, hey?!
And anyway, does the length of a relationship really matter all that much?
Because of DIDO and it's time-warping impact on relationships, we've spent whole weekends together when we might usually just go out on one date. Our first holiday was a month-long trip to Asia. And we haven't just moved in together - we've moved house together twice!
In reality, I think these events have cemented our relationship more quickly than normal. But the time spent apart due to DIDO means we still have the excitement, and there’s less chance of things turning stale.
I still get butterflies before Mr Miner comes home, work still drags by as my excitement grows. And sex is still spontaneous and passionate because it’s much more difficult, even after two years, for it to become routine.
When I think about it, a DIDO relationship has been perfect for us commitment-phobes.
Both Mr Miner and I have never been in a relationship this long, so we're in scary, unchartered territory - unable to turn back and unsure what will happen next.
But if there’s one thing you can rely on when travelling at warp-speed, it’s that the next adventure is just around the corner!
More from Sarah:
- Body clocks and DIDO rosters: a rather stressful combination
- How anxiety counselling changed my life and prepared me for Mr Miner
- Making new friends - an essential tool in mining life
- Here's why I don't talk to Mr Miner while he's away at the mine site
- Sex confessions of a DIDO miner's girlfriend
- Roses are red and DIDO rosters make me blue
- Mixed emotions and my first mining Christmas
- All you need is trust
- How to make your own Prince Charming
- The guilty pleasure of 'man moaning' about my Mr Miner
- Down days and risotto
- How I met my miner
- Making your own life in a mining town
- So what's Orange really like?
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