A new mum's naughtiest fantasy: snuggling, lounging and relaxing
Sarah Long arrived in Australia from the UK in early 2010 and met her Mr Miner soon after. They're based on the NSW Central Coast and he does drive-in, drive-out (DIDO) to country NSW. Sarah came out to Oz as part of a six-month backpacking trip around the world, and never went home!
I have previously been known to talk about sex in this column and I’m about to share my naughtiest fantasy...
Sometimes when I’m alone I lie back and imagine what it would feel like to have a partner who’s home all the time. (Naughty, right?)
See, I love what we have now, but wouldn’t it be wonderful? All that time together doing whatever you like. Someone to share everything with. Long walks together on the beach, cooking meals together, snuggling in front of the TV, going on dinner dates.
I fantasize about Sunday mornings cooking breakfast together, lounging and reading the papers, enjoying a cup of coffee in the sunshine.
I dream of building our home together, Mini Miner in his bouncer, happily smiling and observing as we spend the morning doing DIY projects together.
I imagine walks on the beach in the sunset and candlelit dinners, followed by sex on the kitchen table for dessert.
And at night we would curl up together and get to say goodnight to each other before we fall asleep.
I see normal couples doing these things all the time (well maybe not the sex on the kitchen table part ... but I often see couples together smiling, holding hands, out on date nights or Sunday brunches). I just can’t wait for Mr Miner to come home so we can do all these things ourselves.
But generally I wake up, mid-fantasy, with a start. It’s 4am and Mini Miner is screaming as Mr Miner snores loudly beside me. I drag myself up, fetch the baby (walking into the half-finished DIY project en route) bring him back to the bed and fall back to my deep slumber, dreaming of that breakfast in bed.
Sunday morning arrives and I wake up on the edge of the bed, with a 10-month-old foot in my face, Mr Miner screaming as the owner of the foot inserts his sharp little index finger up nostrils and into eye sockets, giggling maniacally.
I shovel cereal into my mouth while simultaneously coaxing Weetbix into Mini Miner. There is at least coffee and "lounging", also known as lying on the carpet while Mini shreds/chews the paper to pieces because we are both too tired to stop him.
Afterwards we retreat to our own corners in an attempt to finish our half-started DIY projects, while passing Mini between us. Lots of shouting ("No. Stop. Don’t!") and chasing while trying not to get paint/sawdust/general chaos everywhere ensues until we give up and resume lying on the floor with DIY havoc strewn around us.
By dinner time we’re knackered, so we decide to have dinner out (as a treat). And nothing says "romantic dinner" like arriving at a restaurant at 6.30pm and gulping down your food so you're home before your baby cracks it at 8pm.
At least that way we can be in bed by 9pm, collapsed in a heap before we even say goodnight.
Well I did say it was a fantasy, didn’t I? Now all I need is for Mr Miner to go back to work so I can carry on dreaming!
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And here's lots more from Sarah on Mining Family Matters:
- DIDO work roster makes for weird and wonderful first Christmas for our Mini Miner
- Playing Mummy and Daddy
- Making new friends when your partner works away and there's a baby in tow
- Amid the chaos of early motherhood, making time to give thanks
- Pre-baby jitters and nervous nesting, DIDO style
- The trials of trying to conceive when your partner works away
- Exhausted? Sometimes it’s OK to say just say 'No'
- Don't fall for Facebook fantasy. Step away from the socials and get into life
- When the FIFO shoe’s on the other foot
- 'Quality time' is any time we're together
- Who's more tired? Who cares – just help me out!
- More sex, less nagging? Sure, I'm happy to try that...
- When opposites attract
- Life lessons from a Wonder Woman who knew what was important
- It’s not all about the money!
- Shaved legs, painted nails and sexy PJs: it's fly-in day!
- Beating the loneliness blues when your partner works away
- Why I'm sick of 'cheating miner' stories
- Listen up boys and I'll tell you the secret to the first-night-home loving
- Things that go bump in the night
- FIFO does get easier – here’s why!
- 2014 – my year of positivity
- Burns survivor Turia Pitt on staying strong, the love of family and the importance of goals
- Work hard, smile and join in - how my parents prepared me for life
- Three-word phrases for simple communication
- The guilty pleasures of a woman left alone
- Help - I've started to nag my miner about marriage
- Goodbye is always the hardest word
- Don't be lonely when your miner's away. Enjoy precious 'me time' instead
- How to handle food intolerances when you work FIFO
- Lost that loving feeling? Go back to where it all began
- The great escape: holidaying out of a relationship rut
- Time for a DIDO relationship spring clean
- Reliable, flexible, super-organised ... 10 reasons why mining wives/partners ROCK
- How to make friends and really irritate them
- Relationship rules for DIDO DINKS
- Curse of a DIDO girlfriend: the fear of missing out
- After two years, a DIDO relationship is still love on steroids
- Body clocks and DIDO rosters: a rather stressful combination
- How anxiety counselling changed my life and prepared me for Mr Miner
- Making new friends - an essential tool in mining life
- Here's why I don't talk to Mr Miner while he's away at the mine site
- Sex confessions of a DIDO miner's girlfriend
- Roses are red and DIDO rosters make me blue
- Mixed emotions and my first mining Christmas
- All you need is trust
- How to make your own Prince Charming
- The guilty pleasure of 'man moaning' about my Mr Miner
- Down days and risotto
- How I met my miner
- Making your own life in a mining town
- So what's Orange really like?
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