Playing Mummy and Daddy
Sarah Long arrived in Australia from the UK in early 2010 and met her Mr Miner soon after. They're based in Sydney and he does drive-in, drive-out (DIDO) to country NSW. Sarah came out to Oz as part of a six-month backpacking trip around the world, and never went home!
If there's one thing Mini Miner learns from his father working in the mines, I hope it's that girls can do anything boys can do.
I know mining may not be the most obvious place to look for feminist examples, but in terms of equal pay and opportunities for women, not only has it come a long way in a short time, it seems to have leap-frogged other industries.
And then there's the parents taking on different roles.
Now I won't compare myself to a single parent because, number one, that undermines everything Mr Miner does and he is a wonderful hands-on Daddy. And number two, single parents are phenomenal. I don’t understand how they do it. Especially as there are and will be many more times I have to play both Mummy and Daddy roles.
For instance, this week I had to perform the classic 'Dad' task of putting the cot together. I don’t mean to sound sexist and I am sure there are also many mums who have done this, but in our house (as per all Hollywood pregnancy montages) it’s a Dad job... but Daddy was at work.
Luckily I'm fairly handy. Mr Miner may not agree with this statement, but I did survive seven years of adult life before meeting him after all (and no, I didn't live with my Dad the whole time!)
However, time management is not my strong point, so rather than allocating a suitable amount of time early in the day to get this done, I started the job at 5pm, thinking, 'I'll just get this done before bath time...'
Hahahaha! What a fool! Anyone with children, or nieces or nephews, or friends with children, or has in fact ever met a baby, will in fact know that 5pm is the witching hour, the time before day/night when they go freaking INSANE.
So everything started well – I settled him in his bouncy chair surrounded by toys, annoying musical things and general baby debris, while I carefully laid out cot pieces among the less-than-organised unpacking chaos of our cramped bedroom.
I should also point out that we had been back from our trip to the UK for approximately 24 hours and we were both jet-lagged and in a state of total chaos, but I decided in my sleep-deprived state that the transition from (fairly disliked) travel cot to real cot would be easier than putting him back in the bassinet.
So I got out my screwdriver set (the set I bought so I didn't have to use Mr Miner's, and the set he now keeps using) and started the assembly as the protesting whines began. And they only got louder and louder, until I was finally shout-crooning the Universal Mummy Mantra, "Just a minute darling, Mummy's coming. Just a minute! Good boy.... Mummy's coming..." Etc, etc, ad nauseum, while swearing under my breath at screws that wouldn't go in and my own general stupidity.
By the time the job was finished we were both stressed and red-faced, and at least one of us was in tears.
But the point of this whole story?
I got the cot together, while looking after the baby, proving you can play both Mum and Dad when needed.
One day I hope I can say I have raised a feminist, but for now I am happy to say my baby sleeps in the cot his Mummy built. Or I will be, just as soon as I can get him to sleep in it!
Our Miner's Girl also has her own website: check out her blog here at http://minersgirl.com/
And here's lots more from Sarah on Mining Family Matters:
- Making new friends when your partner works away and there's a baby in tow
- Amid the chaos of early motherhood, making time to give thanks
- Pre-baby jitters and nervous nesting, DIDO style
- The trials of trying to conceive when your partner works away
- Exhausted? Sometimes it’s OK to say just say 'No'
- Don't fall for Facebook fantasy. Step away from the socials and get into life
- When the FIFO shoe’s on the other foot
- 'Quality time' is any time we're together
- Who's more tired? Who cares – just help me out!
- More sex, less nagging? Sure, I'm happy to try that...
- When opposites attract
- Life lessons from a Wonder Woman who knew what was important
- It’s not all about the money!
- Shaved legs, painted nails and sexy PJs: it's fly-in day!
- Beating the loneliness blues when your partner works away
- Why I'm sick of 'cheating miner' stories
- Listen up boys and I'll tell you the secret to the first-night-home loving
- Things that go bump in the night
- FIFO does get easier – here’s why!
- 2014 – my year of positivity
- Burns survivor Turia Pitt on staying strong, the love of family and the importance of goals
- Work hard, smile and join in - how my parents prepared me for life
- Three-word phrases for simple communication
- The guilty pleasures of a woman left alone
- Help - I've started to nag my miner about marriage
- Goodbye is always the hardest word
- Don't be lonely when your miner's away. Enjoy precious 'me time' instead
- How to handle food intolerances when you work FIFO
- Lost that loving feeling? Go back to where it all began
- The great escape: holidaying out of a relationship rut
- Time for a DIDO relationship spring clean
- Reliable, flexible, super-organised ... 10 reasons why mining wives/partners ROCK
- How to make friends and really irritate them
- Relationship rules for DIDO DINKS
- Curse of a DIDO girlfriend: the fear of missing out
- After two years, a DIDO relationship is still love on steroids
- Body clocks and DIDO rosters: a rather stressful combination
- How anxiety counselling changed my life and prepared me for Mr Miner
- Making new friends - an essential tool in mining life
- Here's why I don't talk to Mr Miner while he's away at the mine site
- Sex confessions of a DIDO miner's girlfriend
- Roses are red and DIDO rosters make me blue
- Mixed emotions and my first mining Christmas
- All you need is trust
- How to make your own Prince Charming
- The guilty pleasure of 'man moaning' about my Mr Miner
- Down days and risotto
- How I met my miner
- Making your own life in a mining town
- So what's Orange really like?
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