Mareike's ultimate guide to healthy living - step #5: managing stress
Step #1 was taking stock of your current health and fitness.
Step #2 was addressing any issues that were uncovered during step #1.
Step #3 was moving more (by increasing your amount of exercise).
Step #4 was upgrading your diet.
Step #5 is very apt for this time of year: managing stress!
If you're feeling overwhelmed and out of control, employing the following strategies will help you find serenity amid the chaos:
1. Figure out where the stress is coming from
Sometimes when we’re stressed, it can feel like we are being bombarded by everything at once. Instead of feeling like you’re caught up in a whirlwind and being swept away uncontrollably, identify what you’re actually stressed about. Is it a specific project at work, an upcoming exam, a dispute with your boss, a heap of laundry, a fight with your family?
By getting specific and pinpointing the stressors in your life, you’re one step closer to getting organised and taking action.
2. Identify what you can control — and work on that
While you can’t control the state of the economy, the weather, or what another person says or does, you can control how you react to these things. Trying to control the uncontrollable will only compound your already stressed state. By learning to let go of those stressors you can’t control, you are able to free yourself up to work on those you have a part in.
3. Do what you love
It’s much easier to manage times of stress when you are fulfilled in other areas of your life. If your job is stressful, for example, find a hobby or activity that will provide purpose and meaning to your world. What are you passionate about?
4. Manage your time well
One of the biggest stressors for many people is lack of time. How often have you wished for more hours in the day to tick off those things from your to-do list? The key here is prioritising the tasks that align with your core values and those things in life that are most important to you, and spending less time on the distractions that can be big time wasters. (Facebook anyone?) Realise that your time is precious, and that everything you do is your choice.
5. Remove the negotiables from your life
Review your daily and weekly activities to see what you can remove from your schedule. Do your kids really love their extracurricular activities, or are they doing them to please you? Are you volunteering for too many causes, and stealing time from the ones where you could make the most impact? Ask yourself these questions: Do my activities mesh with my goals and values? Am I doing things that give my life meaning?
6. Are you leaving yourself extra vulnerable to stress?
Whether you perceive something as a stressor depends in part on your current state of mind and body. So if you’re not getting sufficient sleep or physical activity during the week, you may be leaving yourself extra susceptible to stress. When you’re sleep-deprived, sedentary and full of stimulants like coffee and sugar, even the smallest stressors can have a huge impact.
7. Preserve good boundaries
If you’re a people-pleaser, saying no feels like you’re a bad person. But those few seconds of discomfort are well worth avoiding the stress of taking on extra work when you can least afford to. Be very protective of your time, and spend it on those things that add value to your life.
While stress is an inevitable part of life, it doesn’t have to get out of hand. Control your stress, before it controls you!
Thank you for your wonderful feedback this year on my articles, tips and advice. I am very pleased to have had a positive influence on helping you live a healthier lifestyle. I wish you a very happy holiday season, and look forward to guiding you towards better health and fitness outcomes in the New Year!
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Mareike Bout is a qualified and registered personal trainer who specialises in holistic fitness and lifestyle coaching. She is a recognised leader in the industry, receiving the peer-voted South Australia Personal Trainer of the Year award in 2008. She is also a regular guest on Adelaide’s top-rating radio station FIVEaa. Mareike runs her personal training business, One Life Live Well, both online and from a private studio in Adelaide. Services include one-on-one training, outdoor group fitness, lifestyle coaching and weight-loss programs. Individually tailored programs encompass aspects of exercise, nutrition, relaxation, positive thinking, life balance, and goal setting. Her approach is to guide, support and educate her clients so that they posses the tools required to live a life of health, strength and vitality!