Facebook support group comes to the rescue of sick FIFO mum
Sandy (or 'Auntie', as many people call her) is our FIFO Survivor. Her husband works offshore in oil/gas and they've been together for more than 30 years - many of them as a fly-in, fly-out (FIFO) family. In that time they've raised two beautiful daughters (both now in their 20s) and moved more than 19 times! Sandy wanted to write for Mining Family Matters to show you can survive FIFO.
I recently joined a Facebook support group for FIFO wives and girlfriends in my local area of WA.
We chat about the problems of this crazy life we lead – trying to run a household, work and remain sane.
Early on, we'd had a discussion about membership of the group. It had become apparent that some members were there only to promote their business. And why would someone from Pakistan want to be a member?
Administration took charge. A few members were upset and a few were deleted, but we ended up with a core group who were there to genuinely offer support and advice.
A couple of days later, a post appeared late at night.
Hi ladies, bit of an emergency here. I've got severe abdo pain and need to go to emergency. Problem is I am here with my 2-yr-old alone and hubby is away. We don't know anyone here. I jut rang emergency and explained and was basically told too bad too sad. Does anyone know of any emergency babysitters?
Before long there were responses of help. But the woman who had posted for help went silent. Concern soon escalated. How could we help when we had no contact information for the person involved?
Through the power of Facebook investigation and phone calls, two amazing women tracked her down – turns out the pain had become so intense that she had called an ambulance. So the women went to the hospital. And when the sick woman concerned had to be transferred to another hospital, one of the women stayed with her until 6am. The other lady took her two-year-old cherub home for the night.
These two amazing angels also got hold of the husband on site.
Days later, the sick woman had to be taken back to the hospital. Yet again offers of help poured in. Shopping, baby sitting, baking.
The Facebook group administrator allowed us to message her privately and list our contact details, including our ICE (in case of emergency) numbers.
Just shows the positive power of Facebook!
More from Auntie Sandy:
- Don't take your health for granted - especially in FIFO marriages
- Sandy's soapbox: all marriages are stressful sometimes, so why single out FIFO families?
- Lessons learnt from a transient FIFO life
- How to be a better listener and friend
- Sure I'm a survivor - but fly-out day can still be tough sometimes
- Cutting the apron strings and learning to find your own way
- How to stay calm and carry on when aliens possess your teenagers
- If FIFO life has taught my daughters one thing, it's resilience
- If you want a job done, give it to a busy mum
- Whatever your reason for choosing FIFO, set realistic goals and stick to them
- Yes I'm FIFO: DON'T JUDGE ME!
- Tough love: how to tempt fussy eaters
- From the Pilbara to Indonesia - how I've learnt to love thy neighbour
- Sandy's Law: things always go wrong when you're on your own
- Even for a FIFO survivor, the shit does hit the fan sometimes!
- To raise great kids today, return to the values of yesteryear
- Looking back on how we prepared the girls for school
- Cocktails at breakfast, waterfights and a house full of people - Sandy's perfect Christmas
- Fifty Shades of Sandy: sex and the "experienced" FIFO couple
- Karratha: a little mining town with a big heart
- Striking the right balance between parent and friend as the kids get older
- Coming out as a Kiwi to offer advice to other NZ mining families
- Even FIFO Supermums do it tough sometimes
- Prepare FIFO kids for change and you'll all have amazing adventures
- Yes, mining life can take a toll on friendships
- How to communicate with tetchy teenagers and a husband working offshore
- Give your kids the blessing of hard work and routines
- Special times are what (and when) you make them
- Keeping your cool when travelling with little people in tow
- Goals, routines and other clever clues for FIFO families
- The memorable meltdown moments of a FIFO mum
- The joys of travelling across Australia to a new mining town
- The pros and cons of boarding schools for FIFO kids
- How to relocate AND save your sanity
- How to be happy with and without your partner
- Meet Auntie Sandy, the FIFO survivor
If you've got a question for 'Auntie' Sandy or would like to make a comment about FIFO living, we'd love to hear from you. Click here!